How to Deal with Negative Emotions


We generally think that our emotion is from our thought body (the mind) nevertheless, if we use the seven dimensional bodies as our guide, we will realize that our emotion is coming from a different dimensional body.

Our emotions are from our emotion body, which is an inner and a more powerful dimensional body to the thought body. Although, we have exalted the thought body (the mind) above other dimensional bodies since it can influence every other dimensional body with our thoughts, however, we need to understand that the emotion body can make you to function with its emotions without consulting the thought body.

Take a look at some of the things that have happened in your life and you will agree that when we are overwhelmed by our emotions; we put aside the rational thinking process that takes pace in our thought body (our mind) to do the things that do not agree with our rational thought pattern. Whenever that happens, just realize that your (the emotion body) has overpowered your thought body (which is your mind).


  1. Take a Deep Breath

This may sound too simple to be true but it really works. When you find yourself in that state of exploding emotionally, take a pause, close your eyes with your head bent backwards a bit as you look at that inner central place between your eyebrows, take in a deep breath, hold it for as long as you can, and release gently until you exhale all the air. Do this simple exercise repeatedly for at least nine times.

This will calm all the tension building within your heart. The energy created within you by that negative emotion will find expression through your breath. Our breath body has a way of working with our emotion body. When we develop the attitude of calming our breath in such hours of emotional heat, we will find ourselves taking control of our emotions.

  1. Identify the Thoughts Linked to the Emotion

Sometimes, our emotion body picks thought signals from our thought body to generate those waves of emotions. These thought signals can come from past experiences or from expected future occurrences.

One thing we must note about our emotions is that they are not just generated from events, circumstances, and realities. They are basically generated by our perception or interpretation.

When we identify those perceptions and interpretations, we can look for counter thoughts to deal with them. If we cannot identify the thoughts linked to those emotions, we may find it difficult dealing with them.

  1. Acceptance

These days, many people find it very difficult to accept who they are. This has become a very serious problem in our society. It is making our youths do things that Nature frowns at. Soon, when the chips are down, they will find themselves battling with different negative emotions.

You are the only you in this world. You are the original you in this world. Accept who you are. Accept your gender. Accept your looks. Accept what you have. Accept where you are. Accept your past. Accept everything about you. Do the little you can. Your day is at the corner. Everything will be alright.

Remember, there is nothing new under the sun. Someone has also faced that situation you find yourself, and has come out of it. If it is a physical reality that you cannot change. sincerely accept it and look for a way to deal with it. Everything that befalls us, we have the capacity to deal with it. You can deal with that challenge and become a source of encouragement to others.

  1. Direct Your Mind to Other Things

When you have sincerely accepted that reality, deliberately shift your mind to things that can make you happy. You can listen to good music (like songs of hope). If you know the song, you can sing along. You can also take a walk into nature, or visit a friend.

Sometimes, the best way to divert our thoughts is to get busy with other things. It could be job, sports, games, video games, and reading of books.

Meditation is also another powerful way to direct your mind to other things in order to clear your thoughts and calm your emotions. Below are two meditation techniques you can use.

First Meditation Technique: Sit upright but comfortable in a chair, relax your body, with your eyes open, look at the roof of your nose for about fifteen minutes or more. When you are done, assess your emotional state.

Second Meditation Technique: Sit down comfortable in a chair, close your eyes, bend your head slightly backwards, and look between your eyebrows. Focus on your breath, while you look at that central point between your eyebrows for about fifteen minutes or more. When you are done, assess yourself.


  1. Don’t Bottle up Negative Emotions

Many people make the mistake of bottling up their emotions. Unexpressed emotions can be dangerous. They can find expression in little things.

When issues arise, it is better to deal with them and free your mind. Cry, if you have to. Talk to the right person about it and sort it out. If you keep bottling up negative emotions, you will express them unreasonably at the wrong time and to the wrong people.

Unexpressed emotions are like time bombs. You will surely shock yourself about the way you will express those bottled emotions.

  1. Watch High Expectations

It is good to be positive. It is good to aim big. It is good to expect the best. Nevertheless, we should not make ourselves victims of the devastating impact of our unfulfilled expectations.

Some negative emotions that can be generated by high expectations that have not been fulfilled are: fear, worry, anxiety, doubt, unbelief, discouragement, discontentment, uncertainty, anger, hatred, envy, jealousy, grief, despair, depression, sadness, unhappiness, impatience, frustration, desperation, disappointment, helplessness, powerlessness, pessimism, regret, blame, guilt, unworthiness, etc.

Please, take it easy on yourself. Remember, expectations that are not fulfilling today can be fulfilled tomorrow. Don’t allow your expectations to inflict unnecessary emotional pressure, pain or injury on you. Always endeavour to give room for the unexpected, and remember, the journey continues. You will surely get there if you don’t quit.

  1. Don’t Compare Yourself With Others

We make ourselves victims of negative emotions when we compare ourselves with other people. Avoid comparisons and competitions. Compete with the old you. Compare yourself to the old you, not to any other person.

You did not come here to be better than another person. You only came here to be better than the person you were in the past. Do your thing. Your own turn will come.

  1. Be Patient

We are in a dispensation that wants things done with the speed of light. “Fast and Furious” has become the norm, thus, in the bid to achieve our dreams, we look for short cuts in our “fast and furious” schemes.

Avoid short cuts. You cannot cheat Nature. Follow the process. Everything you are learning through the process is for the future you have been dreaming about.

Be patient with yourself. Be patient with those around you. Be patient with the process. You might be using the wrong yardsticks to measure your progress. Remember, Life is a journey that we never arrive until at death. Be at peace with yourself. You will also arrive there.




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Published by InspiringTheReader

Author, Music Artiste, Songwriter, Poet, Novelist and Blogger.

10 thoughts on “How to Deal with Negative Emotions

    1. Thanks for your feedback.
      When practicing the first point, please ensure that you engage your full attention. If your attention is divided, you will not get the desired result.
      Just focus your inner eyes on that inner central point between your eyebrows as you give attention to your breath. This is a very powerful technique I have used over and over again.

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    Lets look at the two primary tools for mastering your emotions to create peace of mind.
    First is meditation. Meditation is proven again & again in science to be one of the most effective paths of dealing with anxiety, stress, and negative emotions. A book entitled Buddha’s Brain, which is about the neuroscience behind meditation, written by Dr. Rick Hanson, in the book, he shares a number of insights into how meditation helps deal with stress & anxiety.
    The second strategy for mastering your emotions is self compassion. This helps combat emotional perfectionism & build and understand that it’s OK to experience negative emotions. Self compassion is at root of taking better care of yourself both mentally and emotionally.


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