Over familiarity has made a lot of people to lose sight of the beautiful qualities of their spouse or partner. After spending several years in a relationship, many people tend to focus more on the weaknesses or flaws of their spouse or partner, instead of continually appreciating the beautiful qualities that had attracted them years ago.
This change of focus often gives birth to ceaseless complains that sometimes lead to frequent sparks of little quarrels. These frequent sparks of little quarrels can make one of them to coil into his/her shell and that could make that relationship to grow cold. Soon, the excitement and the attachment they once had towards each other will begin to wane gradually.
Don’t lose sight of those beautiful and unique qualities of your spouse or partner due to years of over familiarity. Don’t take those beautiful and unique qualities of your spouse or partner for granted due to years of over familiarity. Rather, make up your mind to focus on those beautiful and unique qualities and deliberate magnify and amplify them within your heart.
If we can regularly take out time to focus and appreciate the beautiful and unique qualities of our spouse or partner, we will place more value on them and that will silent the nagging condemning voices. If we can always remind ourselves of the things we have admired in our spouse or partner years ago, we will see how some of those changes we want them to make will become very insignificant.
Remember that those qualities were the things you have admired greatly in your spouse or partner years ago. Remember that those three, five or seven qualities were the most important things you wanted in your spouse or partner years ago. Remember that those beautiful and unique qualities were the major things that made you to choose him or her years ago.
Don’t forget the foundation of your relationship on which the great edifice is standing. The toys you want to use to decorate the building are not the things keeping the building in place. Recognize the importance of the things you have used to build the foundation of your relationship, else you will give more importance to those toys that will not keep the building to stand in its place.
Don’t lose sight of those beautiful qualities of your spouse or partner. They are the things that attracted you years ago. They are the reliable cement and blocks you have used to build your relationship. Don’t lose sight of those unique qualities, else, the minor irrelevant things or toys you are now focusing on will end up destroying what you have spent years to build.
Be wise! Don’t allow over familiarity to destroy your relationship with your partner. Remember the most important qualities and values you wanted in your spouse or partner and regard the new changes you want as jara. If they still have those qualities and values, be content and appreciate what you have. Remember, someone somewhere has been praying for what you have.